Psychology ( Body Language in Flirting )

Male and female courtship signals have been studied, and the basic conclusions

are that these signals are completely unconscious. The more you consciously

understand the signals, the better and more successful you will be when courting the

object of your desire, whether it is the man or woman of your dreams.

To master the art of successful flirting, you have to feel good about yourself first.

Be confident. Be yourself, or else you will look deceitful or desperate. Flirting can be

utilized in just about anything, not just in attracting the opposite sex, but also in attaining

just about anything you want in your life. This can be described as good flirting. Good

flirting should be done with a precise understanding of what you really want, coupled

with positive sensations.

I have interviewed a number of successful men and women in the field of

network marketing and advertising in their 30s and 40s. Here are their tips on how you

can put good flirting to your advantage:

1. Don’t worry about whether you are making a good impression or not. Instead,

analyze how you can make the other person feel good. By doing this, you will

get the feedback you are expecting. Soon you will make the connection.

2. Flirting can help you make friends or impress a client if you make yourself

approachable. Put a smile on your face, as it gives you an aura of being

friendly.

3. Remember that you cannot attract people just by sitting or standing like a

statue. There will be instances when you will encounter a person who gets a

little bit too close for comfort feel, or someone who makes you feel you are

already invading privacy. No matter what you do, you would get a so-called

“vacuum” reaction. Tough one, huh? You can avoid this by using gentle

moves and by calibrating the person’s reactions to you. Be aware of these

signals: mouths get larger, the lips swell, eyes widen, pupils dilate, skin

flushes and changes color, muscles around the mouth move, among others.

4. Be persistent. Flirting works best when you are patient. By being such, you

will have room for improvement if at first you aren’t getting the results you

want. If you fail the first time, do it again the second time, third time, just keep

trying. Try different approaches until you realize what will really work best for

you. If you were rejected, don’t give up. This goes with the sayings, “To err is

human” and “Nobody’s perfect.”

5. This is probably for me the most interesting and somehow funniest tip I got:

“Practice in the mirror, only then can you make it perfect!” This is especially

true in meeting friends and prospects, because flirting may involve unwanted

actions and attention which can put you in the bad light. You may be

spontaneous in your actions, but you can’t guard yourself if you are already

overdoing it, and I supposed you don’t want to be in that situation. Try

practicing with your close friends and ask for feedback.

6. Make the first move! Opportunities knock only once, so if you want something

or even someone, go for it, now! Let go of your inhibitions. But remember to

apply positive or good flirting. Who knows if the person you meet at that

moment is your gateway towards the fulfillment of your dreams.

Let Your Body Attract

Do you know why some people seem to have an easier time attracting the

opposite sex? Here's what you can to do in order to catch the eye of your Honey Bunch.

1. Smile sincerely and frequently. In his article “The Six Don Juan

Commandments of Body Language,” Allen Thompson wrote that smiling is

“The simplest, most obvious, and most powerful of the body language

commandments.” He also mentions that “Smiling conveys, both instantly and

clearly, many wonderful things about yourself. Smiling demonstrates

confidence, friendliness, a positive attitude, a good mood, and it gives the

impression that you're someone who is, most likely, fun to be with. It's also

very difficult to ignore.”

2. Have a sense of humor. Learn to laugh at petty matters. People love to be

with those who can turn any situation into a funny setting.

3. Maintain eye contact. Your eyes are probably the most expressive parts of

your body. When you look at your dear one constantly, you are expressing

your sincere intentions. Eye contact also establishes a bond between two

persons. They would naturally feel more comfortable in each other’s

company.

4. Nod your head. By nodding, you signify your approval and you encourage the

other party to continue talking. You give reassurance that your loved one is

doing ok.

5. Be open, physically. Do not cross your arms across the chest or hold

obstructive objects (such as a food) between the two of you. Put your hands

on your sides (and if possible put your palms up) to convey openness.

Knowing If The Apple Of Your Eye Is Interested

Do you want to know if that special someone is interested in you as well? Let's

assume you're a man. You see a gorgeous lady that made your heart beat faster. Look

at her with extreme confidence letting her know you are interested. Then wait for her

reaction. She may be a bit shy to stare back at you, so it's natural if she shifts her

glance. Here's how to find out if she's attracted to you.

• If she looks down and away, she's interested.

• If she looks to the left or right, she's not interested.

Moreover, how will you know if a person is attracted to you just by observing

body signs? 

A girl, for example, is flirting if she espouses the following body language:

1. Her lips show the way. She wears that big smile with her teeth exposed and

with a relaxed face. She bites her lips or shows her tongue, or she licks her

lips and touches the front of her teeth.

2. Her eyes show you everything. She looks at you with a deep stare and her

pupils are dilated. She raises her eyebrows seductively and gives you a wink

from a distance, or when she is talking to you. And of course, the most

common one - she blinks her eyes more than usual and shows you that

fluttering eyelashes.

3. She gets herself noticed by the stroking of her hair. She may push her fingers

through her hair, twirl it around her fingers, or throw her hair back off her

shoulders.

4. She shows a little more skin on her clothing. The hem of her skirt goes up a

little further exposing her legs, or she fixes her clothes more than usual to

look a little better.

5. You can tell it from the way she sits. She sits with an open leg or crosses her

legs in a manner where her thighs can be seen. Or her legs are rubbing

against each other or against the leg of the table.

6. Her hands mirror how she feels. She rubs her wrists up and down in a

suggestive manner. She rubs her chin or touches her cheek, and in a bold

way may even unconsciously touch her breasts. She plays with objects on the

table, fondles keys, or rubs a drinking glass in a flirting manner.

On the contrary, how does a man show his interest in a woman? It’s much

simpler. Maintaining eye contact, smiling frequently, and exhibiting confidence through

his actions are the main ways.

 

Conversation Openers

If you want to start a relationship, you've got to initiate the dialogue. Here are some

great openers.

• If your special someone is a specialist, ask "How do you…?" or "What's it like

to…?"

• Ask about experiences, like "Have you ever tried to…?" or "Have you ever

gone to…?

Find out what interests your special someone. Give compliments in-between

conversations. Always stay calm and relaxed. Be curious and interested. Nod to signify

that you're listening. Say, "Wow," "Great," "I see," etc.

The Touch

A simple touch to the body can have a thousand different meanings depending

on how you perceive the power of touch in body language. It is a basic need to be

touched. We definitely need to be stroked and have physical contact with other people

to survive. As we mature, we continue to heed that need of touching and being touched.

Touch can convey respect and trust, and is also a way to differentiate power

between people.

Touching as an ingredient of body language can be a powerful tool if done with

finesse, with precision, and with accuracy. You must learn the art of touching in order

to send your signals to the other person.

Timing is important, as some people will react negatively if you touch them too

soon or too much. It has to be done at the right time in a suitable way, or the result

would not be one that you expect. Be keen to the circumstances and the mood.

You can determine the appropriateness of your touch and your ability to adjust to

the circumstances, by how your receiver reacts to it. If the person seems to lean or get

closer to you, you‘ve made the right move. But if the person seems to back off, this

means you did not touch properly, so you have to make some adjustments.